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【TED】告女性说系列

01 Embrace your inner girl

拥抱你的内心少女


I’ve met girls with knife wounds and cigarette burns,who are literally being treated like ashtrays.

I’ve seen girls be treated like garbage cans.

I’ve seen girls who were beaten by their mothers,and brothers and fathers and uncles.

I’ve seen girls starving themselves to death in America in institutions to look like some idealized version of themselves.

I’ve seen that we cut girls and we control them and we keep them illiterate, or we make them feel bad about being too smart.

We silence them, we make them feel guilty for being smart.

We get them to believe to tone it down not to be too intense

We sell them,we kill them as embryos

We enslave them,we rape them

We are so accustomed to robbing girls,of the subject of being the subject of their lives. That we have now actually objectified them and turned them into commodities

 

I also want to talk about the fact that if one in eight people on the planed are girls between the ages of 10 to 24,they are the key, really, in the developing world as well as in the whole world, to the future of humanity

 

And if girls are in trouble because they face systematic disadvantages that keep them where society wants them to be,including lack of access to healthcare,education,healthy foods.

The burden of all the household tasks,usually falls on girls and younger siblings,which ensures that they will never overcome these barriers.

Wherever ,The fact is that the verb that’s been enforced on girl is the verb ”to please”. girls are trained to please.

If we teach girls to change the verb, we will actually enforce the girl inside us and the girl inside them.


The state of girls,the condition of girls, and that’s the girl inside us and the girl in the world--determine whether the species survives


她们以毅力、聪慧和优雅征服了世界。

我见过那些遭受了刀伤以及烟头的女孩子,她们如烟灰缸一般被人对待。

我见过那些下场如垃圾场一般的女孩子.

更不用说被亲人殴打。

我见过一些女孩,她们在本应帮助自己找到理想自我的机构中挨饿致死,

我还见过被实行割礼的,被无情控制的女孩。

我们让她们变得沉默,变得对聪明充满内疚以及负罪感。

我们让她们相信宣张、激烈无济于事。

我们贩卖女孩,甚至在胚胎中就将其杀死。

我们将女孩视为奴隶,强暴她们。

我们甚至对此习以为常。认为女孩不该成为自己生命的主宰

于是,我们将女孩当成了没有情感的东西四处贩卖。

 

假设我们认为地球上八分之一是10到24岁的女孩,她们是世界的未来,不论她们在地球上哪一个角落.

 

女孩们深陷各种麻烦,是由于社会将她们置于不利地位,包括缺乏获取基本医疗的渠道,缺乏教育、食物,使她们无法担当本可以担当的角色。

家务劳动的重担大多由女孩和未达劳动年龄的儿童被迫承担,使她们无法摆脱社会的枷锁

 

不论身在何地,人们在谈论女孩时,“取悦”成为她们附加的动词。人们训练女孩去“取悦”他人。

如果我们能够教育女孩改变这个动词,与此同时,我们体内的女孩以及女孩自身的女性特质也会变得更加有力,


我们身体内的女孩以及现实的女孩,将直接决定我们这个物种的存亡。



 "I'm An Emotional Creature." 

 

I love being a girl.

I can feel what you're feeling as you're feeling inside the feeling before. 

I am an emotional creature. 

Things do not come to me as intellectual theories or hard-pressed ideas. 

They pulse through my organs and legs and burn up my ears. 

Oh, I know when your girlfriend is really pissed off, even though she appears to give you what you want. 

I know when a storm is coming. 

I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air. 

I can tell you he won't call back. 

It's a vibe I share.


I am an emotional creature. 

I love that I do not take things lightly. 

Everything is intense to me, the way I walk in the street, the way my momma wakes me up, the way it's unbearable when I lose, the way I hear bad news.


I am an emotional creature. 

I am connected to everything and every one. 

I was born like that. 

Don't you say all negative that it's only only a teenage thing, or

it's only because I'm a girl. 

These feelings make me better. 

They make me present. 

They make me ready. 

They make me strong.


I am an emotional creature. 

There is a particular way of knowing, It's like the older women somehow forgot. 

I rejoice that it's still in my body. 

Oh, I know when the coconut is about to fall. 

I know we have pushed the Earth too far. 

I know my father isn't coming back, and that no one is prepared for the fire. 

I know that lipstick means more than show, and boys are super insecure, and so-called terrorists are made, not born. 

I know that one kiss could take away all my decision making ability. 

And you know what? 

Sometimes it should. 

This is not extreme. 

It's a girl thing, what we would all be if the big door inside us flew open.


Don't tell me not to cry, to calm it down, not to be so extreme, to be reasonable. 

I am an emotional creature. 

It's how the earth got made, how the wind continues to pollinate. 

You don't tell the Atlantic Ocean to behave. 

I am an emotional creature. 

Why would you want to shut me down or turn me off? 

I am your remaining memory. 

I can take you back. 

Nothing has been diluted. 

Nothing's leaked out. 

I love, hear me, I love that I can feel the feelings inside you, even if they stop my life, even if they break my heart, even if they take me off track, they make me responsible.


I am an emotional, 

I am an emotional incondotional, devotional creature. 

And I love, hear me, 

I love love love being a girl. 

Can you say it with me? 

I love, I love, love, love being a girl! 



我热爱当女孩。

我可以体会你的情感,体会你刚才体会到的情感。

我是一个情感动物。

认识这个世界,我靠的不是知识理论,或抽象的概念,而是像脉冲那样在我的器官里,在我的腿里,我的耳朵里流动。

我懂得你的女朋友的烂心情,虽然她表面还是对你百依百顺。

我能感知暴雨来临,我还能感知那看不见的空气的震动。

我可以告诉你,她不会给你打电话了。

因为我能够感应她的内心。


我是一个情感动物。

我不会只是看得到事情的表面。

任何事情,对我而言,都是紧绷的。

不管是在街上走,是妈妈从睡梦里将我叫醒,是我面对失败,是我听到坏消息的那种震动。


我是一个情感动物。

我跟所有人所有事都连接在一起。

我天生就是这样的。

不要是说这不好那不好,那是小孩子的做法。

也不要说,那是因为我是女孩。

这些反而让我高兴,让我快乐,让我感到实在,让我感到强大。


我是一个情感动物。

那是一种特别的认知方式,有点像老妇人的健忘。

她还活在我体内,我因此而高兴。

我知道椰子什么时候会掉到地上,我知道我们对地球伤害太多,我知道我的父亲不会再世,我知道没有人准备好接受战火,还有唇膏不仅仅是为了展示,我知道男孩也时常惴惴不安。所谓的恐怖主义分子是后天的,非天生的。我知道,一个亲吻可以解除我的一切判断力。  

知道吗?

有时候确实这样,这不是极端。

这是女孩会做的事情。

假如我们内心的那道大门得以打开,这也是我们每个人都能做到的。

 

不要告诉我停止哭泣,保持冷静。

不要走极端,要理性。

我是一个情感动物。

这正是地球的运作方式啊,

这也是风的运行规律啊。

你不可能指挥太平洋怎样做。

我是一个情感动物。

为何让我停下,让我掉头?

我是你残留的记忆,我可以把你带回过去,没有被冲淡,也没有一点滴漏。

我爱,听我讲,我爱。

我可以体会你心底的情感,即使那样会停止我的生命,即使那样会打碎我的心,即使那样会把我偏离正轨,但这会让我变得有责任感。

 

我是有情感的。

我是一个有情感的、无条件全情投入的动物,

听我讲,我爱,我爱,爱,爱当一个女孩!

听到了吗?我爱,爱-爱-爱,当一个女孩! 






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